Imagine you are in a position where you are expected to help people change unhealthy habits or otherwise maladaptive behavior. You're not expected to be a miracle worker, but you want to make a difference. Finding effective ways to help these people is important to you. Now, let's make the problem a little harder: the people you're expected to help know that it's in their best interest to change; they've known for some time. Many have made prior attempts to change and have been discouraged by their results.
You are not in an enviable position. It may be even worse than it seems. The very people you are expected to help might see you or what you have to say as being threatening to their sense of self-worth and become defensive. What can you do to help them change?
A recent study points to a simple and inexpensive technique that you might consider. In the field of positive psychology it is called self-affirmation. It works like this: